What Sleeping Positions Will Be Best for You as a Couple

Sleeping next to someone has tremendous benefits for our health starting from reducing stress to boosting our immune system. But psychologists are also sure that sleeping positions can reveal a lot about the relationship between the partners and point out the unspoken problems. So it’s time to find out what our subconscious is trying to tell us and see how it reflects in our daily life.

1. Spooning


Spooning is a very intimate and comforting position that provides a lot of emotional support and skin-to-skin contact. The partner who acts as the “big spoon” is likely to be a very protective and giving person, while the “little spoon” truly enjoys the feeling of this protection, but may need some extra nurturing in a relationship. Sleeping in this position means that partners can rely on each other and that they have managed to create a safe environment for themselves.

This spooning position is good for the health of both partners since it doesn’t put pressure on the back and helps relieve snoring. However, partners should pay attention to their shoulder and knee joints and make sure they don’t hurt.

2. Intertwined

This is an extremely sensual position that resembles a close hug. Being fully intertwined during sleep is common among new couples, who still can’t keep their hands off each other, even in their sleep. Couples who have been in a long-term relationship rarely sleep this way, but if they do, it can be a sign of incredible passion or may indicate codependency in a relationship.

Despite being very romantic, this isn’t the best sleeping position in terms of health. Close physical contact doesn’t leave much space for breathing and partners may suffer from body aches in the morning because of joint stiffness.


3. Back-to-back

Sleeping back to back is a relaxed position that allows both partners to enjoy physical connection but still have their own space. It indicates that there’s a healthy balance between intimacy and personal independence in the relationship. Partners who choose this position feel comfortable with each other and don’t need too much reassurance about their love, but still want to express their tender feelings.

Since both partners sleep on their side, this is a healthy position for their backs. As a bonus, they can place their hands any way they like. But partners should be careful with their joints, to prevent aches and pains.


4. Face-to-face without touching

While the absence of touching may seem like a sign of a problem, this is not always the case. Sleeping in this position may indicate that partners crave something more in the relationship, like attention, intimacy, or communication, but haven’t received it so far. This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, especially if partners are able to listen to each other and grow from that experience.

This position is comfortable in terms of physical health but partners should bring forth some effort to prevent any psychological discomfort. This position is perfect for pillow talk, which can help boost intimacy and promote an open conversation about the feelings and needs of each other.


5. On the chest

Couples who choose this position have strong cooperation skills and see each other as a team. They trust each other and are ready to face all their problems together, but romance and tenderness are still present in their relationship. Like spooning, this position shows the protective side of one of the partners.

Despite all the romantic touching, let’s face it, this position isn’t very comfortable. Partners may suffer from numbness or stiffness of the limbs or feel too hot because of close, skin-to-skin contact.


6. On different sides of the bed

On the one hand, this position may indicate the independence and self-sufficiency of the partners. However, the lack of physical touch may point out certain problems and resentment in the relationship. If partners move away from each other as soon as they get to bed, trying to fall asleep quickly, this could be a disturbing sign of an unresolved hidden conflict that is bothering both partners.

The closed body position and the desire to sleep separately indicate a high level of frustration and anxiety. Partners are distancing themselves from the problem and prefer to ignore it, instead of talking things through.