All mothers worry about their children and it’s fine. But sometimes care turns into anxiety and it leads to psychological disorders in moms, their children, and their whole families.
1. “When my child comes home from school, I breathe a sigh of relief.”
You smile and look happy when your child comes home, but in fact, you hide your anxiety. You start helping your kid and doing simple things for them: you wash their clothes, clean their room, choose a date for their job interview, and so on. As a result, when your child grows up there are 2 scenarios: They can’t make decisions on their own or they argue with you as they try to be independent.
2. “I check everything my child’s friends recommend for them to read, watch, and listen to.”
You’re kind of a spy and that’s not good. You and your child can only be happy if you trust each other. It’s more crucial to teach your child how to behave on social media than controlling their internet accounts.
3. “Parents should protect their children from any risks.”
Your child’s schedule is always strict and if something goes wrong, you experience stress. Your kid is pretty isolated from their classmates and other people. By the way, this parental behavior can cause serious hysteria.
4. “If my teenage child wants to earn some money during the holidays, I’ll find them a job.”
To protect your child from unfair employers, you decide to find a safe job for them. You don’t take into consideration their desires, so their ability to make decisions, choose between different options, assess risks, and other useful skills don’t develop. It’s really difficult to be an adult without these qualities.
5. “If my child wants to do rope courses with their class, I’ll forbid it.”
Every idea wakes up your inner drama queen. You probably used to forbid your child from swinging on the swing because it was too dangerous. Right?
You try to make their life predictable but you can’t predict everything. By the way, this world isn’t that terrible. So is there any need to worry so much?
6. “When my child feels sad, I think that it’s my fault.”
You completely forget about your own life. You’re constantly stressed and annoyed. If you buy something for yourself, you feel guilty.
When your child gets older, you try to protect them from sad thoughts and sympathize with them too much if something goes wrong. To be a healthy person, an individual should experience the full range of emotions and feelings and know how to cope with the negative ones.