Relationship expert Tim Lott says there are 3 important aspects of a successful couple: communication, respect, and trust. He called trust the hardest of all. But still, you need to have faith and hope, even if there were some mistakes in the past, because without these there is no future.
1. You are not afraid to be (or look like) yourself.
According to psychologists, there can be imaginary and natural relationships. Social manners are used in imaginary relationships, and we use them to appear as though we came down from heaven.
In natural relationships, you are not shy or scared about being yourself and you know that your partner understands that you are not a robot and also wants to feel relaxed and at home.
You can walk around the house talking on the phone with unbuttoned pants, eat oranges in bed, and still feel that your loved one is absolutely okay with this.
2. You share the details of your day.
You come back home after a long work day or after a meeting with your friends and you want to share some new information with your partner. You don’t try to hide that a guy from your office made you upset.
This sharing of details develops trust and harmony in your relationship and makes you not just be a partner, but also feel like a close friend. It is important to also to be interested in what is going on in your partner’s life, according to researchers.
3. You can open up about past pain.
It could’ve been problems with your parents, past toxic relationships, or a difficult operation. But the thing is that we can’t share these things with a person who we don’t trust. Psychologists say that, in these cases, it is important to separate the past and the present, and to not compare your partner with anyone.
Besides, if you are open about discussing your experiences with the person you love, you gain a new level of trust. But it is important to not be brutally honest and to be careful to not hurt someone else’s feelings.
4. You share a bank account or you know the PIN for his/her card.
Sharing a bank account can be a sign of trust and happiness according to couples. They are open to discuss money issues and find compromises, which gives lots of benefits to relationships.
It makes couples more likely to go through problems, instead of thinking about ending their relationship, according to Shaunti Feldhahn, a researcher.