Lack of self-confidence is one of the most important things which influences our image, our level of satisfaction with our lives, and our emotional stability. But it’s safe to say that pretty much everyone sometimes feels shy. And you would probably be amazed by the number of people who are trying to fight their shyness.
Desire to be popular
Many people want to be popular. But everything depends on how much someone wants it. If you have a real friend or a group of friends, you are not supposed to feel bad about someone being more popular than you. You should feel good.
But we live in the 21st century when the internet is very important. That’s why many people want to be popular online. And if you’re ready to do anything just to get more likes or views, you should try to understand what drives you, and maybe you should even see a therapist or specialist to help you determine the root cause of your desire to be popular.
Doubts about their appearance
You’ll be surprised but even the most attractive people often have doubts about their appearance. And this is normal. You can’t always be 100% sure that you look perfect all the time. We all have bad days and bad moods and there are many other factors that can influence the way you look.
Try to find the advantages in your appearance and highlight them. This will make you feel more confident.
Caring about someone else’s opinion
If you are constantly bothered by wondering what other people will think about what you do or what you say, then you can relax. The thing is, many people think about the same things. Everyone is scared of a negative reaction to their words and actions. People aren’t generally all that worried about your appearance and your behavior.
Try asking your colleagues what you wore 2 days ago. We are pretty sure that most of them won’t be able to answer. It’s OK to stop worrying about these things and keep living that way you want..
Reaction to refusal
Nobody likes to be refused. But there are often situations when we feel that someone refuses our ideas on purpose even when the person or people had no intention of offending us. Hearing a negative reaction to your ideas or proposals can really hurt your self-esteem, especially if you’re already struggling with building your confidence.
But think about the fact that other people are worried about this too. And sometimes you can be the person to refuse someone else’s ideas. Try to understand how other people feel in these situations and you’ll understand that you are not alone.