Most of us want to grow old with someone but studies show that marriage rates are declining, which has made many of us think that a long-lasting relationship is a myth or simply not worth it. However, that’s not true at all. Love and relationships are complicated, but there are practical and easy romantic tips that we can put into practice to make sure we get the best of them.
1. Always have a small dream in mind that you share.
Sharing a small dream makes you hold hope together for the same goal. Think about saving money for a trip to Disneyland with the kids or a new car. Maybe you’re hoping to renovate your room or are planning a family reunion at home. Either way, sharing and working toward hopes and dreams is a positive way to keep you connected and happy.
2. Write down details about your partner’s simple wishes.
If you find that you always forget what they wanted for their birthday, this might be the solution to that problem and more. Each time your partner talks about a new restaurant they’d like to visit, a movie they’ve been expecting to premiere, or something they wish to buy, write it down. You can keep it as a note on your cell phone and look at it whenever you want to take them out on a date or buy them an anniversary gift.
3. Plan small surprises for your soulmate.
After the first months of a relationship, sparks fly less frequently and you may begin to get used to your partner. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them anymore, but you’re more stable now. True love is not only passion, but it’s also an act of will where you choose to be with that person every day. But that doesn’t mean sparks shouldn’t still fly every once in a while. Surprise your partner with their favorite dessert, prepare them a hot bath after a hard day at work, or buy tickets to that movie they want to see (which you wrote down in your notebook).
4. During an argument, think about how some of it may be your fault.
If you’re arguing and realize things are getting just a bit out of control, go to different rooms for 20 minutes. This will give you both some time to calm down and more importantly, think and reflect on the fact that you may have contributed in some way to the situation that’s making you fight. After 20 minutes have passed, bring some humility to the table and tell each other where you think you were wrong, apologize, and try to find a solution to the problem together.
5. Practice the 3-1 method.
If you sometimes think you always do what your soulmate wants to do, try this method. Say you want to go to the theater. One of you can pick 3 movies they’d like to see and the other can select the one they like the most from those 3 options. That way, you worked together to make the decision and both chose what to do.
6. Take some time apart to make you miss each other.
If we spend all the free time we’ve got with our partner, chances are there’s something we’re not doing that we’d love to do on our own. Think about getting a pedicure, a coffee with a girlfriend, or going on a date with your mom. We need to spend time separately to recharge, especially introverts. That way, you’ll have the opportunity to miss your partner, recharge, and go back to them with a fresher attitude.