All relationships change over time. The longer you spend together, the more changes happen. Some of them can be scary or disturbing. However, if you take a closer look at them, it will be clear that they are just a new stage of your love.
1. Trust is extremely fragile.
All relationships are based on trust, and sometimes it might seem very solid. This is a very deceptive and dangerous feeling because the trust between spouses can be broken very quickly and easily.
2. Sometimes you’ll be bored together.
It’s only in dreams that an ideal couple does everything together, never getting bored together. In real life, a book or a meeting with friends might be more interesting than an evening together with your spouse. It doesn’t mean there is a distance between you. Just rest separately a little, and soon you will have fun together again.
3. You won’t always be on the same side.
Even if you make all important decisions unanimously, sooner or later there will come a time when you will be on opposing sides on a matter of principle. It’s important not to get angry with your soul mate and to find a way out of this situation together.
4. Marriage and children are not a decision – they are a challenge.
Many people mistakenly believe that marriage will make their relationship stronger or that children can bridge a gap between spouses. However, both marriage and parenthood are very tough tests, and there’s nothing wrong with that. You’ll learn to be a good partner and parent, just like you once learned to ride a bicycle. Yes, you fell off it a few times, but it got much better later.
5. You won’t be attracted to each other forever.
A relationship is wildly passionate only in the beginning. The passion goes away, and the love life becomes calmer. Sometimes this can become a problem. The most important thing is not to fall into despair and not to think that maybe you weren’t meant to be together. You can fix everything.
6. You will feel lonely sometimes.
It might seem that a relationship – and a marriage even more so — is the opposite of loneliness, but that’s not really true. Sometimes you will feel lonely, and it may seem to you that nobody understands you and nobody cares about you. Every person has such thoughts from time to time, no matter if they are married or not.
7. You will have strange thoughts.
“Should I get divorced?” “Could I have been happier with someone else?” Such thoughts may come to even the happiest of couples. People often think about these things at night or when they are alone. These questions are as significant as “What would my life be like if I was born in France?”
8. You will lose connection from time to time.
Sometimes you feel like you, your destiny, and your heart are all connected to the person you love. And sometimes this connection seems to disappear. It’s normal. Most likely, you are just very tired.
9. You will hurt each other.
Nobody can hurt you more than the person you love. You take his or her words to heart more than anybody else’s. In the middle of a fight, your partner can also hit you where it hurts the most. You will hurt each other. The most important thing is to deal with the problems when they appear, not when it’s too late.