Today, cheating has been reclassified and it includes not only a physical affair but an emotional affair, as well. It may start out as a platonic friendly feeling towards another person and veer off onto an inappropriate path. These types of affairs are increasingly common. According to the statistics, around 45% of men and 35% of women have admitted having some sort of emotional affair.
1. You’re too close to your opposite sex-friend.
Loveseats at the movies, the Tesla Roadster, a king-size lobster — some things are just built for two. A relationship is one of these things. It’s like a bicycle — adding a third wheel is only going to throw off the balance. The situation may get worse when that third-wheel is a significant other’s opposite-sex friend.
Again, everything might be fine but if your gut is telling you there may be an attraction between your partner and their “friend,” then it’s better to address the issue directly.
Remember that while attraction is not a choice, cheating is definitely a choice. An affair doesn’t just magically happen, only you can make a choice to follow or not to go down this slippery slope. So, if you get trapped in the world of an emotional affair, it will be your choice.
2. You flirt online and offline.
Virtual relationships with many different people at once are much easier to sustain than one in real life. Therefore, virtual polygamy may possibly co-exist within the context of offline monogamy. It’s happening because the internet is an easy place for emotional involvement between strangers.
In many ways, the internet facilitates the same type of relationship-building opportunities we have in real life. Nevertheless, anonymous online flirting, as well as offline flirting, is still an affair.
But the good news is that you can use any social media, messengers, and more to strengthen the existing relationship with your partner and to reduce emotional distance. Healthy internet use between partners builds bridges instead of boundaries and it facilitates online socializing as a couple. it can be a healthy mode of supplementary communication.
3. You complain about your partner to someone else.
You’re obviously going to talk about your relationship with your friends or family, and that’s fine. What’s not fine is constantly complaining about your partner on a daily basis. You may believe that you complain to try and deal with your relationship, but you actually haven’t worked together to address and fix those issues. Moreover, you end up creating even more space between the 2 of you.
This type of approach can be devastating to the other person when they realize you’ve been secretly upset with them. Imagine, if you heard your partner discussing your behavior or your habits behind your back with his friends. We suppose you’d feel like you’ve been betrayed.
If you want to break free from negative and destructive parts of your relationship, never be mad at your partner for something they don’t know they’re doing.
4. You cross the line with strangers.
Emotional infidelity is as dangerous as adultery because it’s intense but invisible. Of course, you may love your partner but when some of your small actions cross the line of infidelity, you’re at risk of losing someone important in your life.
Taking a solo trip on the very messy territory can cause you to do things you wouldn’t normally do — like cheat. For example, you meet a guy at a bar and he flirts with you, flatters you, and gives you something you’re not getting in your primary relationship. That must be a warning sign that something’s not going well between you and your partner!
If you need someone, especially a stranger, to fill whatever void you have in your primary relationship, you’re entering the territory of emotional infidelity. And that can be the most painful form of cheating for your partner.