To love and to be loved…is there any better feeling in the world?
But things can so quickly go awry in a relationship. The problem is, most people don’t even know when they’re doing something deeply toxic to their relationship and to their partner, so we’ve compiled a list of 10 things that can quickly lead to the ruin of your relationship.
Avoid these classic pitfalls and keep your relationships filled with joy and love!
1. Cheating is never an option.
If things aren’t working out between you and your partner, the answer isn’t to cheat. It’s unacceptable, and there’s never any justification for cheating.
If things are on the rocks between you and your partner, it’s something to be worked out between the two of you. If you can’t work things out, then it’s time to break it off. That’s when you can engage with someone new.
2. You don’t spend enough quality time together.
Sure, having a well-paying job and a decent house is necessary for life, but a relationship needs priceless moments that can only happen if the two of you are willing to set aside a couple of hours to simply be with each other.
3. Believing that having secrets are not lies is foolish.
Sure, you are not rejecting anything that is said by your partner, but you are also not telling them anything important. Don’t be angry when your partner accuses you of lying, because the excuse that having secrets is not lying is simply not true. You are hiding something from your lover, and that is bad.
4. Spending too much time together might not be the solution.
You need to find the perfect balance between being away and being together. Being separated for a long time breaks the intimacy, but being close all the time can make you too comfortable.
5. Do not enter a new relationship if you have not moved on from your ex.
This is an obvious reason, but so many people still commit this mistake. You cannot just get someone attached to you romantically if you still have not moved on from your past relationship.
6. Ignoring the value of your relationship is a bad thing.
Communication might be present, but you should also acknowledge how important your partner is every once in awhile. Tell your lover explicitly how happy you are for being with him or her.
7. Stop being jealous all the time.
It’s not a bad thing to be jealous when your partner is clearly taking advantage of someone else, but you do not have to be angry always. Assess the situation before you let your emotions take control of you.
8. You have to pay attention when your lover is speaking.
Do not just look at him or her and nod all the time. Listen to what he or she is actually saying.
9. Being distrustful for no good reason is awful.
If your partner has cheated on you before or has done something questionable, then it is entirely okay to be cautious. However, don’t just be paranoid for the sake of being paranoid – there should be a just cause.
10. Finally, flirting is not something that should be tolerated.
Look, you are already in a supposedly lovely and loyal relationship. Don’t even think of trying to approach someone if you have bad intentions.